facing conflict - how to engage in healthy conflict

Kendra and Kristin talk about how the way we engage in conflict can determine the health of our relationships. Hear about default conflict styles, relational safety and tips for finding resolutions!

Discussion Questions for reflection:

• How has one of your relationships been made stronger by navigating through conflict? 

• Which conflict style do you think suits you the most? What does this tell you about the ways you typically engage in conflict? 

• Have you seen conflict as an opportunity to move towards stronger relationships, or as something that hinders connection? 

• What’s one step you could take in your next relational conflict that would allow for a stronger outcome? 

• How could you look for the markers of safety within your relationships when thinking about how to navigate conflict? 

Further Resources:

7 Steps for Collaborative Conflict Resolution, Worksheet 

⁠https://chr.jbu.edu/resources⁠ 

Gottman Institute blog about conflict: 

⁠https://www.gottman.com/blog/conflict-normal-natural-part-happily-ever/⁠ 

 Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Styles assessment: 

⁠https://www.mtdtraining.com/blog/thomas-kilmann-conflict-management-model.htm⁠ 

Gottman’s on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown: ⁠https://brenebrown.com/podcast/the-love-prescription-part-1-of-3/⁠ 

Four Horsemen Article: ⁠https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/⁠